While it's hard to stop a meltdown, it can often be prevented. As parents, we can often predict a meltdown and play the scene in our head before it happens, so let that guide you in preventing the tantrum. All kids go through small or big meltdowns, but when handled with patience, love, and persistence we can build on positive behavior.
While consequences are inevitable, we need to refrain from negative and unrelated consequences. Punishments or consequences such as taking away a favorite toy or activity not related to the meltdown will not change the behavior in the future. If the child is throwing an object, taking it away for safety is a direct consequence. Communicate clearly why they should or shouldn't do something. When you see a meltdown coming, don't talk about the source (child is asking for something that you can't give), instead, change the subject to something they like and enjoy. Remove them or the source of meltdown from the scene. If practiced consistently this technique saves tons of tears.
It is very important to give attention and reward the wanted and appropriate behavior when it occurs so they will repeat good actions. The attention we give to a certain behavior will only reinforce that particular behavior.
Speech-Language Pathologist • Playdate Speech Therapy